Adopting as a same sex couple

Wednesday 9 March 2022

Chloe and Sarah* originally adopted two sisters aged 2 and 1, they then went on to adopt the girls other two sisters separately, meaning all four girls were kept together. Chloe tells us her story.

Making the decision to adopt wasn’t an easy one for us. We knew we wanted to have a family and being a same sex couple we knew it wasn’t about to happen in the most conventional way.

We worried we wouldn’t be accepted, we worried that the process would break us or that we wouldn’t be good enough for these little humans who needed a forever home. All those fears faded soon after we attended the prep training. We sat in a room full of other people with the same worries and fears and being able to talk to each other made us realise we weren’t alone.

The decision to adopt a sibling group was easy. We wanted more than one child and it made sense for us, we had the love, the space and the energy to give and so there it was in a blink of an eye we were approved to adopt a sibling group of 2 aged 0-3 years.

Then we prepared ourselves for the waiting game. Three weeks later we received a phone call and our lives were turned upside down, two sisters aged two and one years old, exploded in to our lives.

The early days were hard as we made the transition from a family of two to four and there were days where we thought we’d never make it, but with support and time we settled in to our forever family, our little team of four.

Two years passed, we went on holiday, moved house, went to countless soft play centres and knew every episode of Peppa Pig by heart .....then the phone rang, our girls birth mum had had another baby and the decision was made to place her for adoption.

As soon as we heard about her we knew we wanted her to be placed with us but we needed to know it was the right thing for all of us. In the end we just knew that this baby needed to be with her siblings, we were her family and it just felt right, this time round we were more experienced and we all settled into our new family of five which very soon after became six and now we’re complete,

Seeing our daughters together really does make it all worthwhile. The bond they have is beautiful and has made their adoption story so much easier knowing they share the same history.

Is it hard? Yes, and there have been times we have questioned our sanity, usually while we are herding them out of the door to school and nursery but we wouldn’t have it any other way.

They are happy, healthy, beautiful girls who have such a strong sense of identity and we couldn’t imagine life without them.

* Names have been changed for identity protection. The story has been written by a real adopter and the detail is factual.

As part of our support offer to LGBT+ adopters, we give you free access to New Family Social.  If you think you could adopt, we'd love to hear from you, 01642 526 400/ info@adoptionteesvalley.org.uk