We love the madness that comes with adopting siblings!

Thursday 6 January 2022

In the first of a series of blogs, Lucy*, one of our adoptive Mums tells us about how her and her husband came to adopt three siblings together. In further blogs, Lucy will explore more on the practicalities of adopting siblings as well as going in to further detail about the support her family have received. 

‘We love the madness that comes with adopting siblings!’

There is one phrase that no matter how kindly intentioned, has driven us mad since we welcomed our three children home and that is: ‘You have your hands full!’

Yes, yes, we do, and it drives us mad for a few reasons, the main one is that after ten years of being unable to conceive, all the madness, stress, fun, laughter and tears that come with being a parent (never mind adoption) is everything we thought we were never going to experience!

Adoption was never a second option for us, we always knew that one day, no matter how our fertility journey ended, we would adopt. It was just something that we were both keen to do. Adopting siblings? Also, something we were keen to do.

We are both fortunate to have siblings, so appreciate the importance of that bond and knew before meeting with Adoption Tees Valley, that we wanted to adopt a sibling group.

Fast forward to December 2020 and a sibling group of three children, all under the age of 3 were waltzing or rather running and crawling into our lives! We now have the absolute pleasure of having three children who call us 'Mammy' and 'Daddy'; a little boy then aged 2 years named George* and twins, a girl and a boy then aged 1 years old named Jennifer* and John*.

We love the madness that comes with adopting siblings!

All of the usual reasons that any family choose to have more than one child contributed to our decision to adopt a sibling group. We wanted them to share a bond that only siblings can have, to always have each other with shared background experiences, to prevent them from being split up and adopted separately (which was a real option for our children) and to be able to complete our family without going through the adoption process more than once.

Every day, we have our ‘hands full’ but we also get to experience the joy and love that comes from those three little faces, as they settle into our forever family.

*Names changed to protect anonymity.